The biggest revelation was to find out that the only way to keep something or someone, is to let it or them go. It’s such a paradox.
The most important thing is to do it in your head. Really let go. Allow something to happen regardless of your strong will and desire.
Give someone the right to act the way he or she wants and do what he or she considers necessary. Feel it happening inside. Accept it and just go with the flow. Simply put, continue to live your life.
As I once, a long time ago, read in the books of Carlos Castaneda: “Never get attached to anything or anybody.”
I could not understand, how? And why? Because it is so good to have that heart-warming tight-knit connection with the person that means so much to you. How do we go without it?
And I just realized now: that’s the only way you can be free. More often than not, attachment becomes addictive.
And somewhere along the way, you lose yourself. You make somebody else’s life your own and, eventually, you stop living.
This applies to all sorts of addictions: cigarettes, alcohol, gambling, s*x, a man, a woman.
The moment you realize that you can’t live and breathe without it, that’s when you truly need to let go. That’s the only way you will be yourself.
Give everybody the right of free will and choice. It’s not in the fashion of “so be it,” or “in spite of the enemies!”.
It’s a serene, pure belief that with or without the thing or the person you feel so attached to, you will be fine on your own.
It is important not to bind to the outcome. Because no one is obliged to agree with you. No matter how bad, unwise, and stupid someone else’s choices look to you, it’s just your judgement, your perception.
It’s your unwillingness to give the other the right to have their own opinion, feel their own feelings and take their own actions.
You are not have to agree with what they say or do, or even how they live their life.
On the other side, you shouldn’t feel responsible or obliged to justify their thoughts or actions, even less to explain why they are wrong.
The only thing you can change is to continue living your life. That’s exactly what you need to do. nothing more and nothing less.